Lately I have noticed that many of my past boyfriends are calling again... I have remained friends with them but have not heard from them in quite a while. What's up with this? I feel the energy is all about "coming together" and "re-uniting," and-- for one in particular-- I could easily get re-acquainted, but he is involved with another. It's stirring up old feelings and I really don't know quite what to do about all of this.  Could I have your advice?

-- L.

Dear L.,

The universe is obviously wanting you to take a good look at your past relationships. This could be happening all at one time because the universe is communicating, "This is your past in love," and asking, "What will be next?" The former boyfriends coming back into your life right now can represent a completion of a cycle.

It is wonderful when you can remain friends with ex's because in a big way they are the people you have shared your deepest experiences with and ultimately that is what defines "real" family.

But in general I often believe it is best not to reinvest in a relationship that didn't end up working out the first time around-- unless you had and still have an amazing connection Emotionally, Physically, Mentally and Spiritually and you have both grown significantly since you were last together.

I strongly suggest however to not head into a relationship with the ex-boyfriend who is involved with another person- this in never a healthy way to enter a relationship. Unless you both enter the relationship from a clear conscious space emotionally and physically you will end up spending all your energy dealing with the "drama" of the situation, processing unneeded emotions, and ultimately hurting yourself and others needlessly.

I think what is happening is that you are just getting a very clear sign that a new chapter of your life is opening up. And this is your opportunity to be very clear about what didn't work in your past relationships so that you know exactly what you want now and can recognize that right person for you when he shows up-- and it sounds like soon!!