Ask Karinna: Tips for Dating After 60 by Karinna Kittles-Karsten

Dear Karinna,

What do you have to recommend to older people for whom sexual intercourse is "not what it once was?" I, like many others, find myself single and dating at 60-- and I had no idea that E.D. was so widespread! I feel like we need a primer on how to have a satisfying sex life when "traditional" intercourse is not really an option. Any suggestions? Thanks, from a woman who's in the "Prime Of Her Life!"

-- P.

Dear P.,

Well Sex in the City's release this last week certainly proves you don't have to be 20 to be sexy or sexually active. How Refreshing!! And I also recall a few years back the stellar portrayal of Barbara Streisand as a sex educator in Meet the Fockers. I actually thought she had come to one of my classes-- she knew her stuff so well!

One of the most important things to remember is that great sex is so much more than intercourse and that intercourse itself can become a divine design of your own making for exactly this time of your life.

#1. Don't Forget that You Are Sexy!!
This is such a big part of romance and bedroom intrigue. Dress with sex appeal, showing off your favorite attributes-- we all have at least one (if not more) we love. Allow yourself to flirt with that special someone and be provocative in your intimate conversations.

#2. Play Sexy Games
Take games that you usually play for fun or sport and make them sexier-- such as adding sexy banter to a heated game of tennis, making afternoon tea/coffee become an afternoon of aphrodisiacs, a swim in the pool might become skinny dipping at night, playing cards could become "strip and dance poker" to The Police or Luther Vandross, reading a good book together could become reading steamy romances to each other-- and doing Fit for Love (low impact, intimacy exercises to enhance your love and sex life) could become your favorite workout! (It includes a whole section on strengthening sexual arousal and creating more sexual endurance for both men and women.)

#3. Light and Deep
I believe the best combination in regards to arousing romance, foreplay, and sex is to present a combination of light and deep. Light fun/deep thoughts, light kisses/deep tongue skills, light touch/deep connection, light expectations/deep experience, etc.

#4. Cuddle Foreplay
Make cuddling more arousing by spooning in sexy lingerie while your lover wears nice underwear. Arouse each other through the way you hold each other-- slowly moving your bodies to feel the touch of each others skin, melt into each other's hearts, and excite arousal in each other.

#5. Entry
A soft e rection and entry can be much more fun than you would have ever imagined. No need to wait for a full arousal to begin advanced stages of foreplay and sexual activity. Play with your partner and arouse yourself by guiding him to caress your sexual palace with his soft e rection. Feel both of your arousals build. And often-- if a man has enough strength to enter-- he will become more aroused once inside. A combination of slow, small circular movements, then wider and (also try faster) circular movements of your pelvis will help him gain his arousal and keep it.

#6. Ring Around the Roses
If it is difficult for him to enter make a ring around the base of his member with your index and thumb and hold it. This brings more circulation into his member and builds his erection. Keep your ring hold while he enters you and continue to do this while making love as long as necessary. Holding your partner's member during intercourse can strengthen their arousal and add to your pleasure. You can also purchase a ring toy if your partner is willing to try one.

Have a Fabulous Time Exploring this Amazing, "Prime" Part of Your Life!!

Note: Keep sending me your questions and concerns to Ask Karinna at www.sacredlove.com. I love hearing from you!

Wishing You Sacred Love,

Karinna Kittles-Karsten